Posted by galtin on October 16, 2001, at 5:20:23
In reply to Re: Dependence on therapists, posted by gdog on October 15, 2001, at 17:19:39
> sorry for butting in, but i couldn't help it. i've been seeing a therapist for depression and eating disorders for almost a year, first time i ever trusted a therapist to get to the point of talking about anything of substance. three hours ago, she told me she is closing her practice (family emergency) and moving. she can see me once more for closure. i feel devestated, like an essential portion of my recovery has fallen through. she made me tell her i would call some of the other therapists she recommended, but at this point i just dont feel like i can do that. so i just feel like giving up on it all. my pdoc is totally unaccessible for anything other than refilling prescriptions, my gp who told me she would manage my meds changed her mind when she found out the extent of my. . .uhm. . .problems. so. i know i'm feelin a fair amount of self pity over this, but i'm really frightened that this is the straw that will make me totally give up. its just been so hard to continue on, trying to get better and live a livable life. and so hard to go to therapy and shrinks to begin with. i don't know what's wrong with me, but this has been makin me cry for the last 3 hours.
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> soooo. anybody have any good advice/experiences/etc. to share?
> gdog.
gdog,
Yikes! I would be beside myself. But you can't give up. You have worked too hard. If you have trusted one therapist, you can eventually trust another.Instead of getting a list of potentials from your departing therapist, you could ask her to recommend the person she thinks is best trained and temperamentally suited to help you. And since she is leaving you in the lurch, she should be willing to call the therapist to give her some background on the work the two of you have done together (and thereby confirm that this therapist is a good match for you).
If that is not possible, then go therapist shopping. Meet with and interview each person on the list. Most therapists will do this first "let's see if we can work together" session with no charge. That way you won't feel like you are just rolling the dice.Good luck,
galtin
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