Posted by susan C on August 13, 2001, at 11:24:32
In reply to Re: More on aloneness - AKC, posted by Kingfish on August 13, 2001, at 10:24:09
Hi, everybody,
This is really getting into a group discussion...let's see,The recovery from whiplash has been slow, but now, in the last month or two, seems to be better. I am hoping I can go to settlement with in a couple of months.
Finding a non-therapeudic massage, There are Spas, with wraps and mud facials and etc. Those are fun and very feminine. Often, a Massage Therapist (man or woman) is state licenced and has that name because of state licencing and the desire of the industry to remove themselves from ahem! other types of 'massage' Amost any therapist/massage person will and can do different kinds. They have a repertoire. You can look up Massage in the yellow pages. I have a problem, or let's say challenge with having guys give me massages, though my husband likes it when I get home.lol. He needs to give me more massages.
I have heard of Feldenkrist, and cranial sacrail and I haven't tried them yet. I am going through the 10 rolfings again, and that seems to be helping the areas of pain and my balance. Plus swim exercise and walking and losing weight. This is hard work.
Christianity and going to church. My understanding is the first and most left wing of the protestant churches is the United Church of Christ, Congregational. It was the first, as I undersand, to openly accept all sexual orientation as members and clergy. The one in our town is full of educators and very conscientious(sp?) people. I grew up in a medical family, my dad was raised strict southern baptist, my mother norwegian luthern, both from small farming towns. They swore they would never live in a small town and chose Congregational church for us to go to...which we kind-of did. Dad was really an agnostic. Mom now goes to the Episciple (sp?) church, because she likes the peole there. When my kids were little, my husband had not been baptised, and he did not really have an opinion, so we tried out lots, mormons (those nice boys in suits and ties always came by on their bikes in the spring) some other 'american' religions, presbertian(sp?) and congregational. When the boys got to be about 7 or so, we all lost interest.
I am a joiner when I am manic, a recluse when I am depressed.
I have lived in the same town for 31 years. I am always amazed that I don't see people who have lived here just as long. I have moved 5 times and after the 2nd time I noticed it took about two years for me and the neighbors to get to know each other. You know, passing by, happening to go out for the mail at the same time, asking for a cup of sugar or an egg, watch the place while on vacation, meet while mowing the lawn, or appreciating a sunset.
> > Wow, what a wonderful and caring thread!I agree,
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> re: Fundamental Christianity - I was raised as a fundamentalist, and decided at 18 that I simply no longer believed that Christ was the only way to "God." Since then, I have realized that it is not a "friendly" religion in its entirety, though there are some very sincere and wonderful people who are a part of it (including my parents). I have gone through the atheist quandry and am now an agnostic for whatever that is worth.
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> I wouldn't go back to friends from that realm in your life, but that's just me. Mila speaks of a purity in fundamentalists that I think you do find in the Catholic Church, but not in many Evangelicals. And re: that part of AA - that's what would probably always keep me from it, so I'm impressed you've been able to work with that.
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> I want to go get a massage now - perhaps we all should, including Kazoo?
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> I don't know that I completely agree with the making amends part of AA, but then I probably don't understand it. I personally would rather forge ahead and work on where you are now with friendships, such as getting into the resident lesbian community, rather than visit the past. I don't know what happened with you, but drawing from my own meager experience, I wouldn't try to make amends with a friend I cut off years ago. Perhaps I will get my hand slapped here though.
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> We all have only so much energy and you are being pulled many, many ways. I have to remind myself of this constantly. And I don't have as much energy as most people. I, like Susan, am using your posts selfishly, thinking about this now.
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> So your work is taking up a lot of energy. I'm guessing your home situation is O.K. because you're at the same location you've been at for awhile. Your SELF needs a lot of energy right now. So maybe there's not a great deal left over for relationships at this moment. So maybe you just need to find a little something you can do, maybe once a week, to start building that part of your life until you can put more energy into that category. (This is just me thinking aloud, and, yes, quite selfishly). Is it, going to a poetry reading? (By the way, I, too, suck at meeting strangers.) Or, taking a one night a week creative class of some sort? (Again, I'm helping myself here. Have lived in Woodstock for a year, and only know one person).
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> It can't take up much time. Because You need that time right now, it seems. Remember, if you plan in being in KC for awhile, you do have lots of time to connect. And even a little step might make you feel like you're on your way.
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> (Now let's see if I can take my own advice.:))
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> - K.
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