Posted by pegasus on March 28, 2011, at 12:22:15
In reply to Conflict, posted by obsidian on March 27, 2011, at 18:16:55
I think this is an interesting thing to bring up here. I believe you are not alone, sid, in the way you respond to conflict, or in your history with it. And . . . I also know there are people here who have a very different relationship with conflict. Which can lead, I think, to some weird dynamics at times. And by weird, I mean potentially scary, frustrating, and confusing, among other things.
My personal history leads me to appreciate a vigorous argument/debate, but I am also pretty sensitive to perceived anger or judgement/ridicule, especially in a few really vulnerable areas. Mostly I'm good with the debate I see here, and I very rarely feel attacked or put down. It's not uncommon for me to see exchanges where posters end up feeling hurt, and I don't get why exactly. I think it can be due to variations in how thick our skins are. I believe that my skin is generally on the thicker side, except in some specific vulnerable areas.
After I wrote the above, though, I wanted to rephrase the "thick skin" notion. But I'm finding it hard to rephrase, which means, I think, that I'm not clear in my own mind about what I mean.
Is this the type of thing you're getting after, sid?
- P
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