Posted by pegasus on March 29, 2011, at 10:55:12
In reply to Re: Conflict, posted by Daisym on March 28, 2011, at 23:26:04
When I see conflict on TV, I am often amazed at how immature the interaction seems. People throw out zingers at each other (which we never can think of IRL at the right moment, and if we did, they wouldn't be received the same way), and then they stomp off in a huff, or do some vindictive damaging thing to the other person. And the whole thing is often framed as the "good guy" triumphing.
I wish there were more examples on TV of people having honest conflicts where they interact respectfully, even while communicating their hurt or fear or whatever. I mean, the stuff that they call Giraffe talk at my daughter's school: When you do _______, I feel ________. What I need is _______. Would you be willing to _________? And then the other person respectfully responding.
I hope (or wish) that is where we are all trying to get, in terms of interacting with other people. It's so hard when we're innundated with examples of the opposite, presented as successful interaction (from the protagonists's point of view).
- Peg
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