Posted by muffled on December 24, 2007, at 0:06:27
In reply to Re: sigh...Muffled » seldomseen, posted by rskontos on December 23, 2007, at 15:48:04
>Intimacy as Caraher put it is something I have always not wanted intimacy is something your parents should naturally teach you to have, there is all types of intimacy. When you don't learn how to have it, then it is tough to teach it to yourself.
*yeah. To some extent I think I am hardwired to be less social, but I carry the "keep away" thing to the extreem. It IS tough to try and let others close. Goes against ALL rules.
>In my own marriage we have just stumbled along blindly. I am not sure how we have made it actually but it has cost me huge. I have alot of work to do in that arena as well Muffled. So don't feel alone. He tries to be as understanding as possible. So talking does help even if you can't explain everything
*Its amazing how you guys have made it! Your hubby sounds wonderful! It is SO hard to talk, but talk I must I guess...
> I hope we both feel stronger and more peaceful in this area one day. Too much will blow your mind. So take it one thing at a time. dont let guilt make you try too much too soon either . ok......
*some EXCELLENT points here...
> ((((((((((((Muffled)))))))))*(((( rsk))))Thanks!
> But this good I think bout stuff too and it is all good too.Glad it helps you too.
Thanks!
:-)
M
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