Posted by muffled on December 22, 2007, at 23:17:35
You females can ask your men, and any men can answer for themselves. I think I asked a similiar question B4, but this is (I think) slightly different words. So this is the scenario...:
Wife marries DH. Has sex, has kids. But then she goes to T. She stops chronically dissociating. Gets to the point the she can't really 'phase out'even when she wants to. Even when she needs to.
So now she discovers she has been dissoc for sex B4, and now she don't so readily. She feels the dread and panic and backs off. She wonders if she let sex get further, maybe she would dissociate after all, it would be OK? Just the feelings she gets are just so awful. Blinding. Now she to the point that she can tolerate hugs and bit of safe touch, but ANY more and her head sets to screaming. She is bothered for many hours, sometimes days.
So wife has said, no go, to hubby, just hugs. But he still tries now and again.
QUESTION: Is it unfair for a wife to expect a DH to go w/o sex for years?(its been that proly...)I am not a man. I do not know what it is like for him.
That is my only question that I worry.
I hope he don't feel too bad :-(
I feel bad for him.
I feel like I ripped him off.
M
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