Posted by muffled on December 24, 2007, at 0:00:43
In reply to Re: So here's a question.... » muffled, posted by Wittgenstein on December 23, 2007, at 15:14:07
> I have these same problems and as a result my partner and I almost never have sex. I'm lucky that my partner doesn't push me but I feel he doesn't deserve this.
*yeah, feels bad don't it?
Also feels bad that we can't enjoy this thing called 'sex', thats supposed to be so wonderful and terribly important...:-( Makes me feel like some kind of reject or something :-(
> You're not alone. I'm sorry you have this. It's hard, but what is positive to see is that other babblers who had similar problems have been able to work through them in therapy - so there's hope for us.*ya, there's hope....it just seems so impossible, but I cling to some kind of hope.
> I was thinking about your last thread about whether sex is evil. Unfortunately sex is a tool for evil (as are many things - but sex gets a lot of attention for this) as well as something that gives great pleasure and even more essentially it gives life. With no sex there could be no good or evil - we depend on it, as many life forms do.*whoah...some deep thinking there! Sigh. Thats weird, how it gives life....like some kind of great cosmic joke :-(
Joke on me anyways :-(
> Something I do wonder whether others experience (and I feel a bit awkward to ask)... for those who have problems with physical intimacy in relationships i.e. problems with sexual touch, do you however engage in self-pleasure (masturbation)? What I mean is, do those who have problems with physical intimacy with others tend to have the same problems with intimacy with themselves? In my case, my mind isn't there either way - I just can't - I'm wondering whether this is mostly the case.*I can get my rocks off by myself. But its usu quickly and angrily. It seems to be a younger part, and it seems like its punishing itself or something, or its imagining someone punishing it?I dunno, its confusing. But there is often anger involved.
Thx witti.
M
So I guess thats not much of an answer.
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