Posted by Tamar on June 22, 2006, at 17:57:54
In reply to Re: I tried again » Tamar, posted by muffled on June 22, 2006, at 11:20:51
Hi Muffled,
Great change of subject line! Very subtle but very effective!
> Mebbe its that one step back thing. Where its too hard to talk directly bout your Dad, so you talk about your dad by talking bout your T, so its safer.
Makes sense.
> Or talking bout feelings. I can talk for my Kid inside, but not for myself. I need that one step away to be safe.
Yeah! In my case it’s my 18 year-old who can’t talk for herself. She insists I talk for her. And it definitely wouldn’t be possible for her to talk for herself. She tried it once and got really terrified.
> I don't think I explaining it too good.
I think you’re explaining it perfectly. You are extremely good with words.
> Also my T says communication is more based on tone and body language than just words. Mebbe your tone/body lang/words are not matching up when your talking. mebbe other 'stuff' is interfereing.
Oh! That’s really interesting! I wonder if it’s something like that. It’s entirely possible, because I try to reveal as little as possible, so he might be able to tell that he’s not getting the whole story.
> Sorry this is so vague.
> Hope you get what I'm trying to get at.Definitely. Thanks so much Muffled. That was really helpful.
Tamar
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