Posted by annierose on June 22, 2006, at 6:18:39
In reply to I failed again, posted by Tamar on June 22, 2006, at 5:58:47
Yes I do understand what you mean. He doesn't understand that language, and it's not any fault of his own. In this session, I think he tried to tell you that when he said "that maybe you should see someone that does more long term therapy." His training doesn't help people with these types of relationship issues (IMO). It doesn't make him a bad therapist or a bad person. He is probably quite good as what he does, and I give him credit for wanting/trying to help you.
I know it's painful to seek out another therapist. When I quit my T mid-session (years ago) I did see another therapist. And it was a completely different experience and a good one. It's just different and different doesn't mean bad. And you won't be starting from scratch. You have already figured out things with T1 and T1 will give you the referrals to start the search. Ask him if these Ts are psychodynamic - that's really what you are seeking - I think. You will find the relationship so rewarding and exhausting.
I'm not suggesting, although it sounds that way, that you up and leave this therapist. I just think you are stumbling into uncharted terriority with T1 and he is waving a yellow flag, saying "I'm not sure I can go there. I don't know how to respond in an appropriate manner. I don't know if I can help you with this."
You are making complete sense. My T would encourage this dialogue and pull things from it to help me see where this feeling originated - why it came to be a global template for me.
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