Posted by pinkeye on May 13, 2005, at 16:01:10
In reply to Re: Can I ask you all something? **trigger**, posted by sunny10 on May 13, 2005, at 8:26:34
Thanks a lot Sunny.
I really am happy that one person here has the same issues like me.
But my situtation is really not that bad. My husband is very decent and nice and most of the times pretty considerate. HE did get violent several times - maybe about 10 or 15 times, but it never went too bad. I got really frightened, but I don't think he would ever completely loose control and beat me up very much. Maybe he will, maybe he won't. I don't know. All I know is so far it hasn't gone out of control.
I don't behave like a doormat all the time.. And maybe I shouldn't have put with stuff that I put up with, but in the end, he is a good guy.
But you are right, I think sometimes, I just give in because I basically think I am not too worthy, whereas I should really stand up to myself. His cult doesn't teach him violent behavior.. actually they do advocate women are subservient to men, but they also say that a good man never mistreats a woman. So I don't know.
I guess I would be happier if my hsuband was more open, and more living in this day and time, and more free, and if he would let me be free completely without putting restrictions. He gets very upset if I have other male friends. And maybe you are right, if I stay with him, I probably wouldnt grow up to fulfill myself.. but I am scared of loneliness and finding someone else who would treat me with respect and like me.. my ex T treated me with respect, but he didn't like me much. And I haven't met anyone who treated me with respect and liked me, and who I liked back. So I don't think I have too many options even if I leave my hsuband.
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