Posted by pinkeye on March 7, 2005, at 21:53:58
In reply to Re: :-) » Dinah, posted by alexandra_k on March 7, 2005, at 21:19:44
Does it matter if you open or close your eyes or you look straight or away?
I think whatever you feel comfortable should be just fine.
With my previous T, I used to look straight I think. I felt comfortable doing that. With my new T, I do all sorts of things - look aside, look in her eyes, look at her dress etc etc. I really don't care one way or the other.
But usually after the session is over, I can't even remember what she was wearing..Somehow I don't register her face too much. With my previous T, I used to remember everything in detail.
CBT is actually not all that bad as you think it is. Once you realize that you are in control, it is pretty empowering, if you take it in that sense. Of course, therapists are also limited by what they have control over.. If they could, they could rewrite our past and then change things around us, but it is not possible. Taht is why they are asking the only thing they have control over - us - to change to atleast make it bearable for us.
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