Posted by shortelise on October 7, 2004, at 21:20:57
In reply to NEED ADVICE, PLEASE, posted by College-Girl on October 7, 2004, at 15:22:12
yikes.
That is ticklish, isn't it?
Well, dearie, I think the truth might set you free, so to speak.
I would say, I need to apologize about something - I didn't mean to give you the impression that I was trying to make a friendship out of this tutoring thing. I am so busy with my part time job, and my fulls schedule at school, and my boyfriend is a big priority too. I would enjoy to tutoring you once a week if you would like, but an hour or two once a week is honestly the only thing I will have time for for the forseeable (sp?)future. We can set up a time to get together on Mondays, and then you can call me on Thursday afternoons if you have a question or two. Would that be ok? Or would you rather find someone else to help you in this class?
Try if you can to put it in positive terms, not accuse her of dumping stuff on you, but sooner try to take it on yourself - I know you didn't do anything to invite her to get so intense about you. But if you can take it on yourself, it might be easier for her. But do make it clear what your terms are, and that they are firm.
Kindness is a rarity, and you are in a position to show some kindness to someone who needs it. I really admire you.
ShortE
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