Posted by mandinka on October 7, 2004, at 21:07:24
In reply to NEED ADVICE, PLEASE, posted by College-Girl on October 7, 2004, at 15:22:12
That's serious. This level of dependancy is scary. I think you should clearly but politely let her know that you feel uncomfortable with her behavior. I suspect she has no idea that her feelings aren't really about you but past relationships. This looks like transference bigtime with her having little insight into her own motivation. Thats is dangerous. My advice - firmly and swiftly cut her off, don't take upon yourself more than you can handle. Take care of yourself, not her - know your limitations and boundaries. Listen to your feelings. I really don't like her attempts at guilt manipulation. Nasty hostility in there.
Good luck. I hope she'll let go.
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