Posted by College-Girl on October 7, 2004, at 15:22:12
Hi, I am in College, as my username implies, recently another student asked me to tutor her and help her with some tough concepts in a class that I was vocal enough in for her to know that I was getting the concepts. I don't know her, but we exchanged numbers and set up a time to meet in the library this past Sunday.
Come Sunday I had to call and reschedule for Monday night. No big deal, right? We met Monday night and went over all the material the class had covered since late August. After we studied, she told me something that upset me greatly. She had spent her afternoon therapy session talking about how I had abandoned her on Sunday, and how lonely she had felt consequently. I was really surprised, and told her so. She had seemed so nice and happy to reschedule. I really had had no other choice, but to reschedule the study session. I told her I was sorry that she had been sad about it. Since then she has been calling me often, trying to commit me to a weekly study night, and reminding me of the pain that was caused by my rescheduling.I was not so upset by the fact that she talked to her therapist about feeling lonely when someone rescheduled a meeting with her, but rather that she is SO attached to someone she doesn't even know. My boyfriend is surprised by how often she calls my cell phone, and I would like everyone's advice about how to GENTLY deal with this woman, whom I wouldn't mind tutoring, but whom I do not want to become entagled emotionally...
poster:College-Girl
thread:400047
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