Posted by Dinah on January 7, 2004, at 19:31:27
In reply to Re: So, it turned out to be an AFGO! » Dinah, posted by tabitha on January 7, 2004, at 18:55:36
We've had the discussion a few times. Sometimes directly, more often indirectly. He says he cares about me, that he likes me, that he wants what's best for me. That he's fond of me if only for all the years we've put in together. That he wouldn't have been my therapist for all those years if he disliked me. But it's all that therapist stuff that all therapists say, and so I distrust it. I mean, he could hardly answer that he can't stand to see me and only does it because I pay more than any of his other clients.
Once when I talked about my preferred method of suicide, he winced. I think that was the most genuine thing he ever did/said. I was really touched. I had rather thought he would stand over my body, fold his arms, and say "I'm sorry she made that choice" before walking off. I actually promised him not to kill myself without giving him a chance to help first, I was so touched. I also told him not to tell me if the wince was actually a leg cramp or something.
He's also told me a few genuine things when he was tired and stressed. Things that he probably shouldn't have told me. About how he has trouble with dependent women. About how that's his problem, not mine. Now that was one statement about his feelings that sounded believable. :) I told him he was pretty much in the wrong profession.
I don't know. Sometimes he does things that make it seem as if he does care. Like scheduling me for the mornings of his flight if he's leaving late enough to do it. Things like that. Or laughing at me. When he laughs at the annoying things I do, it feels like he likes me ok.
But he does get angry with me an awful lot. Do most therapists get angry that often? Or show it anyway?
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