Posted by Jai Narayan on October 19, 2004, at 7:33:41
In reply to What happens when you can't grieve?, posted by mair on October 18, 2004, at 16:18:38
mair, death of a parent is full of confusing emotions. it sounds like you need time to get used to this. sometimes lack of emotion is shock and that wears off. Eventually feelings will come. It would be helpful if you could be kind to yourself and not expect to behave in certain ways.
when my mother died. I didn't cry. I was tied up in other emotions....one of them was relief. She died in 2003 and I'm still working it out. I had a difficult relationship with her.
I had been doing EMDR on my relationship with her since 2000 and all that work helped me to come out from under my adaptions to her oppression.
so by the time she died, I was reborn.In my experience with my parents deaths...there's been a gift to me on a deep and delightful level.
I don't know if others have had this happen.mair, keep posting and talking about it....
Jai
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