Posted by Clayton on December 2, 2003, at 7:50:38
In reply to Personal question for you Clayton, posted by Elle2021 on December 2, 2003, at 5:29:41
Good question. The answer is complex and I can not say that I understand it fully. As I'm not into writing multiple paragraphs right now, I will return to this as soon as I can.
But Note: She has a terrribe temper and left in a rage. ONE DAY before this, she was telling me how happy she was with her life and how delighted she was with me. We w're setting a wedding date.
We were never marrried in twenty-five years because her bio-son Ricardo, who is my son-in-fact and calls me "dad", was born with multiple congenital problems. The dozen surgeries required to correct these were finannced by my income, all my savings and a charitable organization that would not have helped if they knew I existed. (She set that one up without my knowledge and dropped it on me as news). Therefore, we could not get married. And I could not legally adopt the children. But those were technicalities. I raised them with all the love and nurturing and time and encouragement I had.
I am still wearing my engagement ring. I bought them six months ago. She had called her parents in El Salvadore and told them we were getting married.
Twenty-four hours after her expressed delight and setting of a wedding date she was gone in a rage.
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