Posted by Dr. Bob on April 9, 2014, at 2:01:20
In reply to Re: Lou's response-moarhey, posted by Willful on March 31, 2014, at 17:43:18
> I'm almost speechless, Lou, but I have enough in me to call you an insensitive bigoted idiot. ... Maybe I'll get blocked for offending the offensive.
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> FayeroeDo you have enough in you to express how you feel as an I-statement? You may be more likely to be heard because his shield may be less likely to go up. (Plus you may be less likely to be blocked.)
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> Just in case it would be a consolation, Lou, I'd like to assure you that I see virtually no possibility that any subset of readers will think less of you based on what anyone says to or about you.
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> I also think there is absolutely no one who will possibly commit suicide or be driven to any sort of desperation, deeper depression or suicidal despair based on what is said about you here.
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> I'm sorry if you don't understand this clearly and torture yourself about the possible ramifications here.
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> you can put your mind to rest about how destrructive it is to others.
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> WillfulThere's a big difference between "virtually" and "absolutely" no possibility. I myself find it difficult to feel absolutely sure about the future.
If X said they were afraid of flying, do you think they'd feel supported if Y said they were sorry X didn't understand aerodynamics and tortured themselves? Do you think it would be effective if Y said X could put their mind to rest?
Bob
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