Posted by Dr. Bob on April 21, 2014, at 10:14:51
In reply to Re: being heard, posted by Willful on April 18, 2014, at 11:30:08
> Actually though I'm very unhappy with this dialogue. If what I said to Lou was uncivil, I wish you simply had said that you found it uncivil.
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> Since I was trying, in my own way, to start some sort of dialogue with him with the hope of understanding him better in some way that made me more comfortable with his presence here-- which admittedly has become less problematic since he has taken up this "discussion" with you--
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> and I wasn't trying to be uncivil-- quite the reverse--
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> and while I certainly didn't think he would be reassured by my observations--
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> I do find it has really alienated me from this place to have had this short interaction.This short interaction with me? I'm sorry, I'm afraid I wasn't sufficiently empathic myself. I thought you might have been trying to get him to question his convictions when you just wanted to get to know him better. Feeling misunderstood by me may have contributed to feeling alienated from this place.
I think you may understand him better now. He may believe something with conviction; he may be in the grip of something compelling. And it sounds like you may know what that can be like.
If I were to try to start a dialog with him, I might ask him about forest fires.
Bob
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