Posted by Dinah on November 8, 2010, at 12:49:54
In reply to Re: realistic possibilities » Dinah, posted by Solstice on November 8, 2010, at 12:35:51
It was a loaded phrase. And I suppose I've been trying to lower the turmoil level. :) It wasn't the concept I minded, just the phrasing.
As a mom, I can say without any shadow of doubt that it's possible to block a behavior without rejecting a person. But as a person, I'd say it was very very hard to experience the blocking of a behavior and not feel rejected as a person. Heck, I feel rejected if my therapist gets a chance to say "It's time to stop today." No matter how he says it.
I guess I'm just saying that it helps me to realize that my perception of the message is not necessarily the message sent by the other person. I feel rejected, but my therapist is not actually rejecting me.
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