Posted by Dinah on July 1, 2009, at 17:39:25
In reply to Re: thanks Dinah » Dinah, posted by rskontos on July 1, 2009, at 12:50:22
I don't think I deserve much more credit than Dr. Bob. Dr. Bob and I aren't so far way from one another in what we want.
I don't know that posters and Dr. Bob are so far off with what they want, either. It's just that people, Dr. Bob, posters, and all the rest of the world, sometimes have trouble communicating.
My therapist and I fight not infrequently. I always say that although we fight, we hold on to our relationship with one hand. We try to keep in mind the greater goal.
I suppose I try to do that with Dr. Bob as well, although of course he doesn't have the same commitment to me that my therapist does. He does have that commitment to Babble though.
Dr. Bob cares about posters, I think. He doesn't want to see people blocked. Posters and Dr. Bob both care about Babble, and babblers.
Wouldn't it be better for all of us to "fight" with one hand on our care for Babble and babblers? With an eye to keeping Babble as a viable and supportive message board in an internet that gets bigger and bigger every day?
All of us who have been in therapy, or gone to therapy school as I'm guessing Dr. Bob has, know the basics of fair fighting. Validation for the other person's feelings and desires, even if we can't grant them. Respect. Expressing anger with at least one eye to the overall relationship and the overall goal.
Even if some posters may not like Bob, they probably do appreciate his providing Babble and the time he puts in - given that they care enough about Babble to stay.
And in his own way, I don't think Dr. Bob means this as a shifting of blame onto the babble community, but as something that has occurred to him to support posters who are posting in such a way that a block is a possibility.
I think Dr. Bob is a good-enough administrator, just as I think posters are good-enough posters and the deputy-posters are good-enough deputies. We're all we've got (in the composition of Babble at least), so we might as well make the best of it?
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