Posted by Dr. Bob on June 29, 2009, at 10:55:09
In reply to Re: block length » Dr. Bob, posted by yxibow on June 28, 2009, at 4:01:57
> I am very sad to see the length of the block you have given to Happyflower ... You expressed a formulaic statement about hoping she would overcome her traumatic childhood with her abusive mother, but you seem to have unwittingly put yourself "in loco parentis"- YOU are now rejecting and hurting her.
I'm just enforcing the guidelines here. I was sad that this community wasn't able to help her avoid another block. I do hope she overcomes her abusive experiences. It may help if she can avoid more rejection and hurt right here.
> calculus is easy for me, but I have never been able to figure our how you do the arithmetic for the blocks you give out.
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> twinleafHere's the formula and a form that does the calculations for you:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#enforce
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> it is in my opinion really telling someone to go the [put in your favourite 4+ letter word] away.
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> I've lost nearly 10 years of time with various things in my life including this 7+ year disorder and I wouldn't wait around to come back after a year.
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> It's also unrealistic to expect someone to "apologize" before being "sent to the corner" in instant time.
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> -- JayIt's like telling someone to go to their cabin to cool down. Sometimes for longer, sometimes for shorter. After which they're always welcome back. Not everyone does come back if it's for a year, but some do.
The guideline is to be civil, not to apologize instantly when uncivil.
Besides, in this case, she wasn't blocked instantly. She kept posting, and others kept posting to her, before she was blocked. Again, I'm sad that during that time this community wasn't able to help her avoid that block.
Bob
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