Posted by rskontos on June 14, 2009, at 0:22:50
In reply to why this site can be so hurtful..., posted by twinleaf on June 11, 2009, at 17:41:54
, say 2006, you will see how much warmth and goodwill has been lost, and how mean-spirited and even cruel many of the exchanges here now are. Unfortunately, I think Happy is right: fair-minded people who intend to have the happiest and most fulfilled lives that they can, and who wish the same for others no longer belong here. Even worse, some of us who trusted Babble, Bob and the posters here have had horrible, stressful experiences- ones we do not have in our daily lives and shouldn't have anywhere. I am going to be very blunt: Bob is possibly a sadistic individual who damages the people he comes into contact with. I am just one of many who has been hurt by him- not the first and, sadly, probably not the last by far.
** I agree. I have been here since 2006 and the tone and level of threads, posts, tones of voice in threads/posts, has indeed changed and not for the better I am afraid. I have been hurt by things he has said and by the things he has done to others I feel for.
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> I, and very likely others here. expected Bob to be roughly similar to therapists in our real lives whom we have chosen because they are warm, intelligent, well-trained, and able to help us live happier and more fulfilling lives. I think we are discovering, painfully, that Bob does not possess any of these qualities. He is an on-line conundrum- anonymous, unknown, cold, and at times dangerous to our well-being.
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I find the site a safe place, or rather I once did. I once felt like I needed Babble like I did my therapy sessions. Sadly I no longer feel like it is the safest place anymore.
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