Posted by yxibow on June 18, 2009, at 12:07:00
In reply to Re: why this site can be so hurtful... » Tabitha, posted by Amelia_in_StPaul on June 17, 2009, at 22:21:43
I have had feelings of leaving the board too... I left twice for some weeks I think after blocks which I felt were truly mincing and over parsing words.
I now bend over backward to be so civil that I can't express what I really mean about certain alternative therapies, certain "faiths" which are strongly anti-psychiatry, and other matters which would at best get a f-word on your typical "underground" or site-associated place run typically with an a-hem, much better system of posting.
If you've ever looked at these web boards, usually some variant of v-bulletin or other software, they have the ability for moderators to delete posts (in a different way from here), individuals to edit or delete their own posts if they change their mind about what was said, and even add something to their original post.And also, a-hem, I know this is a research project and thus everything that someone ever said is on google, but that isn't the way most specialized boards are run. First of all crawling takes up bandwidth, and second of all privacy is wanted.
So only parts of the site ever get indexed, and they have a robots.txt file that (if crawlers follow the rules) mutes most of what is said so what someone said 5 years ago isn't still out there and can't be erased and still embarrasses the person.
And there is such a thing as not being able to respond to a "hurtful event" in 'real time'.People do have to conduct their lives off this board and its not realistic to expect an immediate return.
It may take several days to come back to the board, to find yourself blocked for 720 years.
I know of people I know that haven't gotten to my email in several weeks.
Just my 2c-- Jay
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