Posted by twinleaf on June 11, 2009, at 17:41:54
In reply to Re: Okay, have your way, I will leave per·ma·nen, posted by BabyToes on June 11, 2009, at 16:26:51
I have never met Bob, but if he is indeed "closed off from himself and others", as Happy describes him, and as he has always appeared to be to me, it would explain a lot of what has been happening here- how rules and the power that goes with them take such precedence in his mind over compassion and understanding, how he is unable to take suggestions, no matter how constructive, and how his quite cold and detached interactions with us has gradually robbed this place of its value and meaning. If you compare how posters interacted with one another now to how they did so in, say 2006, you will see how much warmth and goodwill has been lost, and how mean-spirited and even cruel many of the exchanges here now are. Unfortunately, I think Happy is right: fair-minded people who intend to have the happiest and most fulfilled lives that they can, and who wish the same for others no longer belong here. Even worse, some of us who trusted Babble, Bob and the posters here have had horrible, stressful experiences- ones we do not have in our daily lives and shouldn't have anywhere. I am going to be very blunt: Bob is possibly a sadistic individual who damages the people he comes into contact with. I am just one of many who has been hurt by him- not the first and, sadly, probably not the last by far.
I, and very likely others here. expected Bob to be roughly similar to therapists in our real lives whom we have chosen because they are warm, intelligent, well-trained, and able to help us live happier and more fulfilling lives. I think we are discovering, painfully, that Bob does not possess any of these qualities. He is an on-line conundrum- anonymous, unknown, cold, and at times dangerous to our well-being.
poster:twinleaf
thread:900430
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20090529/msgs/900518.html