Posted by BabyToes on June 11, 2009, at 16:26:51
In reply to Re: Okay, have your way, I will leave per·ma·nen » BabyToes, posted by rskontos on June 11, 2009, at 13:47:00
Thanks so much RSK. I hope to keep in touch with you because I consider you my friend. We have much in common, more than I ever knew, especially the things I have found out recently through therapy. I would love to catch up to you again.
I do deserve to be blocked my last time because I verbally attacked Dr. Bob for this stuff he does and did. Even after that long block, I still don't feel sorry for any of it, in fact because I meant every word and STILL do. But I should have vented myself in other ways for what he has done. Wait? I already did that before, and what happened? Nothing...
You can't change people who don't want to be changed. Being a survivor is knowing when to put away your gloves and walk away knowing you did all you could to make things better. Dr. Bob says be the change you wish to see (which isn't HIS overly clique quote to begin with), well I see myself at a better online support site, so you will see me there, at ANOTHER site because I saw NO change here! He says change is slow, well that is what a lot of people must have heard Hitler say too until he was stopped. It is interesting how real world life situations continue to repeat again and again. Maybe that is the "secret" research that is going on here. I see why some what to hang on here, the home they always knew. But eventually others will hopefully see that hanging on to an abusive situations or environment, will always end up hurting you more. I remember that as an abused child, I wanted my mom to change, and I kept thinking she would see the light and do that. But I left home and will never come back because I have my own home now, a much safer place that doesn't have to wait for "slow change" or to "be the change you wish to see" because it isn't dysfunctional as this site. Dr. Bob is in the darkness of himself, you can't change him. I couldn't change my mom.
I do have some fond memories here and value some people here, but it is time to move on to a place that can feel like home, a safe place away from abuse. That is at Psych Central. Some even tried to follow me there to ambush me there too, but it didn't work because the other members wouldn't stand for that. His rules are fair, and fair rules keeps everyone happy. If things get out of control, they remove the hurtful posts, not the people except in extreme cases. Dr. Bob could learn a lot from Psych Central, if he desired to. I have met Dr. Bob in a social situation and he was closed off from others and from himself. I can't expect him to ever change things at this site. This site is just like him. (no surprise, right?) If you want change, you have to go somewhere else.
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