Posted by BabyToes on June 11, 2009, at 11:32:17
In reply to Okay, have your way, I will leave per·ma·nent·ly, posted by BabyToes on June 11, 2009, at 1:34:47
No, you all haven't been a part of this. It is funny to me that the people who have to ask, are very innocent ones indeed.
Besides for me the past is the past. I have come to a place where I know to not care what others think, if they don't matter to me. There are a lot of good people out there, spend your life and energy there, ignore those who seek to hurt others, especially the ones who want to hurt you personally. It isn't about you, those behaviors are about THEM and THEIR issues. It is hard to get offended by anyone if you follow these principals in life. But the peace is so worth it.
There are other online places, places more accepting, higher traffic, and yet very few problems with the posters, and without the harsh Babble rules.
I truly believe the strict rules of Babble, ex: using "I statements or you will get blocked," has only caused a huge divide in people because the rule civility rules are not being applied to EVERYONE, EVERY time. If one would look at the instances of those who have been blocked, you will see most blocks come from secondary problems of those trying to support sides of the blocking issues. Most blocks are not from out right incivility against others. They are from not phrasing things in a certain way, saying F*rt, or from those responding to the underground of careful worded posts that are meant to hurt others and trigger anger. But if you speak right up to the line of civility, it doesn't get you blocked even though the messages are just as hurtful if not more hurtful in many cases because they get away with it. I have learned you can't fight this battle because you will lose every time.
One site is very good with PTSD, and those who are "abuse survivors." There are many who understand those like me, and can be a valuable support because they know where you are coming from. I have learned so much about myself from those who have been kind to me and accepting, like Babble used to be.
Sometimes actions of people who are victims of abuse or have PTSD seem to be mean-hearted, but actually it is far from the truth. Most are responding to threats against their safety, and seem to be acting out, but really only wanted to be loved and accepted. Yes they are sensitive,and the "Babble Underground" who knows this (many are in the mental health field), uses this to their advantage. I guess there is some sadist pleasure in getting others hurt or blocked. It doesn't surprise me anymore that many of these undergrounds start from those in the mental health field, like Dr. Bob. But I have learned there are MANY f*ck*d up people in the field. I guess I have learned from this, on what NOT to do as soon to be mental health professional.
It reminds me of being a child when my brother was poking me in the side and my parents didn't see that, but heard my yelling and thought I was being the trouble maker. So I got beaten (like a block) and it gave my brother even more incentive to poke. A thirst of blood as you spoke of, Verne. It is hard when your disorders make you sensitive to these ambushes.
But the thing is, when you stop caring about people who only want to hurt you, you take their power away. They will find others to prey on, I am sure. But you don't have to be victim to this, you have a choice to leave. It leaves so much peace in your life because you really can't change people no matter how much you stomp your feet,or to try to change babble rules. You can't win this way. But leaving it all behind you, that is where you can have some peace. There are many good people in the world, seek those out, stand beside them, because they will want to stand beside you too. You will feel so much lighter, trust me.
Happyflower
http://psychoflowers.blogspot.com/ Feel free to keep in contact if you are blocked again for telling the truth. :-)
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