Posted by Dinah on May 6, 2009, at 17:15:27
In reply to Re: Subject line change, posted by alexandra_k on May 6, 2009, at 16:57:46
> I need to... Be careful about constructing my environment so that it is pleasant and rewarding to me. Need to avoid places where I don't feel safe.
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> I need to not be posting here. Given that 'change is slow' and so on and so forth. It is better for me not to be here.
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> And my take... Is that a friend would accept that and wish me well. I mean they could try and persuade me that I'd be better off here... But then the fact that I could well get blocked for a year for arbitrary reasons, well, who would want to put a friend through that?If what is best for you is to move on, then of course a friend would accept that and... Wait. I refuse to wish you well. That would imply that I'm not going to see you again. A friend would accept that and support you in whatever is best for you, in this and everything else.
As of course I do.
I've never thought you were too ill for Babble. I do think you care an awful lot about it, and that really increases the chances of being hurt by it. Especially with regard to Dr. Bob. There are elements of blank slate there that are a bit like therapy relationships, but without the chance for rapprochement and repair. Believe me, I understand.
Is there anything Dr. Bob *could* do that would help? Short of promising never to block you again? I don't think he can promise any of us that.
Personally, I think he's gotten a whole lot better about arbitrariness. But I suppose that's a matter that's open to debate.
poster:Dinah
thread:888433
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