Posted by alexandra_k on May 6, 2009, at 17:05:06
In reply to Re: Subject line change, posted by Dinah on May 6, 2009, at 16:56:47
> I really don't understand.
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> > And that is the issue, really. That Bob thinks he has some direct line to a verdict from on high such that he (and only he) can be trusted with judgements of whether someone is in violation or not. His careful selection of people who do their best to do 'exactly would Bob would do were he here' (and their acceptance of his ultimate authority).
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> The rules are his, so the judgment of whether someone is in violation of the rules really is his. The judgment on what the rules should be might differ. But the rules are what he says they are. This is his site.But that is the thing... He doesn't seem to think that it is just about his site. He seems to think that friends would persuade their friends to tow his line. He seems to think that the way he views civility and respect and friendship is constitutive of exactly what those things are. Not just on his boards but more generally. If he were to say 'this is the way I'm doing things and it is my site' then that would be one thing. We would know where we stand. But for him to say 'this is what it is to be civil or respectful' or 'friends would persuade friends that I have special insight into these matters' or 'I'm doing what I'm doing for the good of the group' are quite different claims. They make it sound like... He really is interested in what is best for these boards. Or he really is interested in the nature of friendship. But of course he isn't.
So the issue then becomes: False advertising.
There should be a warning: These boards are my boards and I will block posters for up to one year if I feel they are posting in violation of the civility rules. Civility is a technical term here on psychobabble and it has been defined extensively in the FAQ and according to precedent on the boards (ignorance of precedent or definition is no excuse). My judgement is final and overrides definition and precedent. Please think carefully before posting here. Many posters feel that this policy does more harm than good to both the boards as a whole and to individual members of these boards. My overriding concern is with the boards as a whole (will sacrifice individuals for it) but really I'm not even concerned about that since I won't systematically alter anything in order to actually observe what is best.
It just becomes more of a sick joke the further I go along, huh.
Sometimes if you care. You just gotta let it go.
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