Posted by okydoky on August 6, 2008, at 21:07:55
In reply to Re: Note regarding Admin policies, posted by toph on July 27, 2008, at 13:05:08
From Policies see:
http://www.kalimunro.com/article_conflict_online.htmlChoose whether or not you want to respond
You do have a choice, and you dont have to respond. You may be too upset to respond in the way that you would like, or it may not be worthy of a response. If the post is accusatory or inflammatory and the persons style tends to be aggressive or bullying, the best strategy is to ignore them.Assume that people mean well, unless they have a history or pattern of aggression
Everyone has their bad days, gets triggered, reacts insensitively, and writes an email without thinking it through completely. It doesnt mean that they dont have good intentions.On the other hand, some people pick fights no matter how kind and patient you are with them. They distort what you say, quote you out of context, and make all sorts of accusations all to vilify and antagonize you. Don't take the "bait" by engaging in a struggle with them - they'll never stop. Sometimes, the best strategy is to have nothing more to do with someone.
I think we are doing ourselves, this board and perhaps the person posting a disservice each and every time one of us responds to a post that we read as intending an uncivil or provocative tone, even if our buttons have been pushed. Most times the only purpose the interaction serves is that of the provocateur.
The only instance where I see this could be problematic is if the poster is a deputy.
poster:okydoky
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