Posted by Dinah on July 30, 2008, at 12:05:42
In reply to Re: Ah, there's the pragmatic I lack, posted by okydoky on July 30, 2008, at 11:46:16
Oky, I think the problem is that there is no one answer. Requests for clarifications can mean different things in different contexts.
I often use them when I read things that surprise me, or that I don't understand in context. Instead of getting defensive or angry, I check first to find out if there's a reason to feel defensive or angry.
It might be an example of reflective listening. I hear that you are saying this, am I correct? Which is a way of making sure there are no misunderstandings.
It may also be a way of expressing the conviction that there must have been a misunderstanding because I apparently offended someone when no offense was meant.
It can also have other meanings. Some people feel the need to have things explained in a detailed or particular way. It can of course be an expression of anger. "What do you mean by *that*?"
Like so many other things, the words can mean more than is apparent on the surface. If in doubt, it can be helpful to ask for clarification.
I certainly never meant to ignore you. Your statements appeared to be addressed to gg, and I did not wish to be rude by answering for her.
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