Posted by Dr. Bob on January 22, 2007, at 16:08:25
In reply to Re: helping - suicide, posted by one woman cine on January 22, 2007, at 8:21:43
> If my "helping" is seen as pressure, then I feel silenced & will no longer offer help to people who appear to me to be be asking for that help.
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> one woman cineOK, but might there be a way to encourage and help that wouldn't be seen as pressure?
> I'd hope my friend would think that my life/health is worth saving and react according to the level of seriousness my distress merited. And I think they would make a call to someone
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> ElThanks for giving this some thought. Maybe they wouldn't just *think* you were worth saving, but *tell* you that, too. What if they didn't know who to call, what would you want them to do then?
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> it suggests that posters engaging in advice broken-record-mode feel a less signigicant type of upset or hurt, than broken record distress posters.
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> [my friend] would be scared sh*tless that I was talking in such extremes
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> ElThose giving advice certainly might feel upset or hurt or scared. If so, maybe they could also ask for support for themselves? Maybe without mentioning the other posters, since that might lead them to feel blamed, like Fallen suggested that those who feel suicidal because of other posters not say who:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20061228/msgs/723508.html
Hmm, maybe I should merge these threads...
Bob
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