Posted by so on May 22, 2005, at 1:02:09
In reply to Re: Dr Bob: question about being blocked or PBC'd? » so, posted by alexandra_k on May 21, 2005, at 23:57:14
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> I just try and worry about making sure that I am not hurting / accusing anyone else.
I wonder if you would apply that standard to everthing in your life, though. What about that hypothetical baby torturer -- In real life, can we accuse him then hurt him till he stops?I can acknowledge some therapeutic value to an exercise where people are held responsible for their own and for others feelings as well, but I prefer to be informed before I consent to participate in therapeutic proceedures. The information I consented to said support and education was provided by other members of the group, not by a set of standards designed not only to create a therapeutic milieu but also to effect therapeutic intervention. Taxonomically, support groups are marked by their lack of such therapeutic cross-talk.
We might classify analysis of the rules as they are discussed on this page in three categories. There are people who write that they are:
A. Fair and useful, and understandable.
B. Perhaps fair or useful but not understood.
C. Arbitrary and sometimes a result of failure on the part of the administration to be consistent, perhaps as a result of mixed purposes that the administrator must explain to no one but himself and to the people he doesn't alienate from his group.I probably subscribe to the latter category, though my postion is probably a result in part of polarizaton to balance what I see as undue subscription by others to the first two categories.
People say they don't understand, so others say "see, it's like this, he's trying to x,y and z for our benefit because he knows best" and I would say, "look, this guy is human. just because he graduated med school doesn't mean he has the scoop on human behavior or an absolute handle on what he is trying to do, so it might be as much his problem as it is yours that things don't always work out so well here."
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> Some of the rules can be tricky. Especially on the faith board IMO...
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>Tricky is an apt description. "One person's unique, somewhat isolated way of handling things" might be another reasonable description.
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