Posted by trouble on March 5, 2002, at 3:47:50
In reply to Re: How social is Psycho Babble Social? » kid_A, posted by Cam W. on March 5, 2002, at 2:00:35
Hey,
It is enormously cool to be ruminating over something all day then come home and see my worries given shape and coherence by someone out there who is evidently plugged into the very same circuit. It's very bonding and it happens alot.
I'm usually easy-going, shoeless, amoral, shrug off the nonsense, each to his own, but lately I've been getting very upset about how people are treated on the board by other members and I have to get a grip on my feelings.
The way I approach the board is by writing a post, then strolling up and down the line looking at new threads, seeing if I can inject myself into a particular conversation w/out disrupting the continuity. Then an hour later I go back to my original post and it if it's morphed into a thread I get all excited, it's like company's come to visit, and I start opening them one by one, see how they build and expand on each other and it's totally great. But when all of a sudden the next post happens to be an an arm-waving diatribe, a total disregard of what's come before or promulgation of religious views it's like ice water in the face. This may sound hysterical but when that happens it reminds me of a rapist's mentality, he had no idea she wasn't enjoying herself, after all she was there, wasn't she.
This IS social behavior, and mental cases or not I doubt any of us would act this way if we were gathered together in some turn of the century bordello w/red velveteen walls and scarves draped over lampshades, ragtime pianoman tickling the ivories beneath a gem-encrusted chandelier and plump ladies in ermine escorting gentlemen robber barons from room to room, talking of Michaelangelo--ooops, wrong fantasy; but you know what I mean, why not see PSB as a great big coffeehouse where I drop by one table for medication advice, another for spiritual fostering, another to compare record collections and if I have nothing to add to the conversation and I'm really itching to type, I'll just go home and start a new post.
That's the seed of my frustration, why would someone want to destroy the momentum of a thread w/ some tangential rap when the whole board is an open forum for anyone to instigate their own discrete subject? Instigate being the operative word, as when Black deliberatedly misunderstands White, makes accusations of bad faith and incivility and what do you know 3 posts later there's Black back again, this time as the voice of reason, the hero and peacemaker, can't we all just get along get this thread back on friendly grounds?
I know that's to be expected in a community such as this, there will be more blatant acting out and inappropriate center-staging than what you see in the larger community, but we also have more tools than the unafflicted, given our centuries of combined psychotherapy, so we should be able to identify and ameliorate these problems as they come up.
Which y'all seem to be doing quite handily, pardon my butting in!!Madame trouble
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