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Posted by shar on October 31, 2002, at 21:46:55
...but, it looks like nobody noticed I was gone! Oh well. That is probably a nod to your collective mental health!
Next time I leave I'll let y'all know in advance so you can miss me while I'm gone....8-D
xoxo to y'all.
Shar
Posted by judy1 on November 1, 2002, at 9:30:35
In reply to Hi, everyone! I'm back!!, posted by shar on October 31, 2002, at 21:46:55
I missed you! and noticed you had left- where? Hope you are doing well- judy
Posted by shar on November 1, 2002, at 20:10:18
In reply to Re: Hi, everyone! I'm back!! » shar, posted by judy1 on November 1, 2002, at 9:30:35
Wellll, since you asked......I was away confirming the fact that I was in love. (But, shhhhh, don't tell anybody...)
Thought all that had passed me by, and was pretty ok with it, except for occasional wistful longing. So, it's very, very nice to be absof**kinglutely flabbergasted in this way.
We are now reflecting about it all, absorbing it, thinking about a journey together.
Pretty dang scary at times, for me.
Thanks for noticing I was gone! 8-D
xo
Shar
Posted by tina on November 1, 2002, at 20:29:04
In reply to Re: Hi, everyone! I'm back!! » judy1, posted by shar on November 1, 2002, at 20:10:18
The big "L" Ooh, I"m so happy for you. I hope it's a wonderful journery.
Posted by judy1 on November 2, 2002, at 9:21:21
In reply to Re: Hi, everyone! I'm back!! » judy1, posted by shar on November 1, 2002, at 20:10:18
I can't think of anything that makes you feel as good as you do when you first fall in love, let's just call it the world's most effective AD :-). I wish both of you great happiness- judy
Posted by shar on November 2, 2002, at 10:14:45
In reply to How exciting!!! » shar, posted by judy1 on November 2, 2002, at 9:21:21
T and J:
Thanks for your warm good wishes.yes, it is a good AD and that worries me a lot. We both have bouts of depression, and expect that it will continue to occur, and that is sort of scary and disappointing. Plus, it worries me that I feel happy--hahahahaha, I know it's weird--because somehow it doesn't seem real. More like a really good movie. That I don't want to end.
He and I have talked about all this--and more--I am very, very grateful that this man (a) knows his feelings and (b) can talk about them.
In fact, he talks a lot. And has a wonderful voice. Very deep, baritone. I was sitting in a chair, he was on the sofa talking about something, the house was warm, I was relaxed and felt safe, hadn't had a lot of sleep, his deep voice was soothing...the next thing I hear (in a little louder voice) is "Sweetie, don't fall over and hit your head on the coffee table."
Hahahahahahaha, I was dozing off and about to just fall right outta my chair. How unusual for me to feel so safe and not hypervigilant. He took it very well that I enjoy dozing while he talks, it happened more than once.
<VBG>
Shar
Posted by NikkiT2 on November 2, 2002, at 17:32:22
In reply to Re: How exciting!!!.....and EEEEEEEKKK, posted by shar on November 2, 2002, at 10:14:45
This is really really great Shar!!! *grins*
Tell us all about it.. I adore some romance and new love stories!!!
Nikki xx
Posted by shar on November 7, 2002, at 23:13:15
In reply to Re: How exciting!!!.....and EEEEEEEKKK, posted by NikkiT2 on November 2, 2002, at 17:32:22
Nikki,
Thanks for sharing your excitement. I'm grinning quite a bit these days my own self.Hmmm, what to say, how to say it. Are you still active at ASH?
Basically, this was a long distance, 2-year friendship that developed into "love" (whatever that is). I knew right away almost that we had an important, meaningful connection, and he was wise enough to ensure that the fork didn't run away with the spoon. I'm probably responsible for the love having an opportunity to grow, and he is responsible for making sure that we were close in many other, deep ways before romance entered the picture.
That's probably confusing enough. So, we got together and we were the same people we had been, with the same closeness and caring, only face to face. The same strong connection on all levels, only better--and with a few really nice additions....8-)
Shar
Posted by NikkiT2 on November 8, 2002, at 7:45:46
In reply to What is Lub?---Nikki, posted by shar on November 7, 2002, at 23:13:15
*grins*
I met my husband on line, so kind of know what you're talking about.. I hadn't bene using chat room slong when i met him, but there was this instant connection.. and we exchanged email addresses and he was just.. I dunno.. we just really clicked!!! I htought I was mad for starting to ahve feelings about someone on line!!! *lol* And when we met.. he told me within 10 minutes of meeting he was in love with me!!!
Hearing other peoples loves reminds of how much I have with J and how much I love him.. and gives me those nice feelings all over again!!
Yup, I'm still posting regularly at ASH... we'd love for you to post over there :o)
I'm just soooo happy for you Shar, I really really am!!
nikki xxx
Posted by coral on November 9, 2002, at 8:29:38
In reply to Hi, everyone! I'm back!!, posted by shar on October 31, 2002, at 21:46:55
Dearest Shar,
Congrats for being willing to take steps into very scary territory!!!! I am sooooo happy for you and your story about nodding off is absolutely priceless. He's a lucky man!!
xoxoxoxo
Coral
Posted by shar on November 12, 2002, at 9:59:57
In reply to Re: HAPPINESS TO YOU!!!!, posted by coral on November 9, 2002, at 8:29:38
Thank you, Coral.
You've always been an exemplar to me that love could happen. Just never thought it would with me. Your WH stories always left me feeling reassured that people Could find each other, and have that certain connection.
Sure hope you are well, and your WH, too.
Shar
Posted by ShelliR on November 19, 2002, at 23:24:02
In reply to Re: Hi, everyone! I'm back!! » judy1, posted by shar on November 1, 2002, at 20:10:18
Hi Shar,Just scanned this board for the first time in ages and came across your post. It's funny cause you crossed my mind this weekend. I was sick, flipping through tv channels and came across a cool history/interview of the Dixie Chicks. (knew who they are, but nothing about their history). Anyway, knowing they're from your neck of the woods, was wondering if you've followed them.
Anyway, I am so, so happy for you. Lots of times "young-ins" write on PSB saying how lonely they are, how crummy they feel, etc., totally unable to see out of the present. And I generally try to share that when I was in my twenties, I didn’t even know the people that I would later fall in love with even existed. Didn't even know I could fall in love. It’s so hard to see possibilities when you're depressed. Non-depressed, impossible to predict who and what will fall into our lives. And to remind them they they have ions of time for find magic.
When I read your post, I remembered how impossible it is to ever predict who and what will fall into our lives. People can always be waiting around the corner, no matter what age we are.
I'm so happy you've found some magic, friendship, the big L.
Again, continued happiness.Shelli
Posted by shar on November 21, 2002, at 21:51:11
In reply to Re: Hi, everyone! I'm back!! » shar, posted by ShelliR on November 19, 2002, at 23:24:02
What you are saying is absolutely true, and I also worry about the young 'uns who haven't experienced many years, and haven't learned that life can hold some good stuff occasionally. And this is a prime example...my being in love...ssshhheeeessshhh! Who'd a thunk it?
Thanks for your thoughts, and I don't follow CW too much (but, for God's sake, don't tell anybody!!!!). It feels good, tho, to know someone thought about me. 8-)
Shar
Posted by Phil on November 22, 2002, at 1:23:26
In reply to Re: Hi, everyone! I'm back!! » ShelliR, posted by shar on November 21, 2002, at 21:51:11
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