Posted by floatingbridge on October 8, 2011, at 16:32:16
In reply to Re: Retribution » floatingbridge, posted by hyperfocus on October 8, 2011, at 15:40:01
Last week my therapist used the term, 'mom-crazy'. She made it up on the spot, but it expressed something she said she observed in clients and herself that mothers (in general) tend to be more reactive and vigilant regarding their children (this is a broad generalization). I looked at my post just now and realized I was picking apart the story like a who-dunit. That somewhere, someone is responsible. Because if I can figure out this boy's story, I could ward off anything similar happening to my own child. I still feel very sad thinking about that boy. And you are right. 14 or whatever is such an impulsive age.
(Keeping a child's computer and computer access to a common room can help ward off the vulnerabilities the online world fosters.)
Anyways, my therapist was trying to get me to see that I cannot always protect my child from suffering. Like the young Siddhartha. I can spin that into, well, if I work diligently at recovery, I will be all the wiser and here for my son. Which is true and also mom-crazy.
Regarding homophobia, I feel like it's still important to remove as many sharp objects out of reach as reach. Cruelty seems an inevitable part of human potential, but the least harmful terms (or complicated) the better. I think that kids that use such terms as f*gg*t have an inkling of the meaning. Because kids get these words from the adults around them.
I think fat, stupid, and ugly are sticks and stones enough. But then, I think we were better off without gunpowder, too....
I dig a pony.
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