Posted by gardenergirl on November 17, 2010, at 11:56:01
In reply to Re: Could we stop the flogging now, posted by hyperfocus on November 17, 2010, at 8:41:54
I'd like to apologize to Phillipa for my comments above about gossiping. I can see how she might feel hurt by them. I didn't intent any hurt or to suggest that Phillipa or anyone else here is lacking something. Rather, I was trying to empathize, in a hypothetical way, with someone who might not be getting their needs met--needs we all have and try to meet in any number of ways. I know from my own experience that not getting basic needs met for love, esteem, belonging, etc. hurts. I'm sorry my actions added to that for anyone.
I feel bad for everyone involved. I've been on both "sides" of this at different times of my life, and neither role feels very good.
Our reactions to this, though varied, are all valid, and it's a tricky thing. For myself, I'm going to focus on my own behaviors and making sure what I do does not contribute to talking badly about anyone, either behind their backs or publicly.
gg
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