Posted by TexasChic on February 5, 2008, at 19:38:07
In reply to Re: OK, I feel better now/Deneb, posted by rskontos on February 5, 2008, at 15:35:31
Man, that is total crap Deneb. You have to trust your own decisions no matter what you're family says. Because they are WRONG!!! I've experienced this too. When I decided to go to college, I brought all the financial aid stuff home and had it spread out on the table, and when my Mom came in I proudly said, "Look, I'm going to go to college!" She gave a sarcastic laugh and said, "You can't possibly afford that!!!" in an 'are you crazy' sort of way. I did it anyway and have come a long, long way since then - with NO support from my family. In fact, it was more like the constant abuse like you endure.
Try to do what you know is best and block out all the interference. I know its hard, believe me I know, but it can be done. I'm living proof!!! And believe me, you are way stronger, smarter, and tougher than I was back then.
I would suggest trying to figure out a way to get away from your family, but I do realize how hard that can be while going to school. So if you can't do that, try not to engage with them when they start in on you. That means don't defend yourself, don't argue, just go, "Uh huh", and move on. Eventually they will get tired of trying to argue when they don't get a response. Of course, your Mom probably actually does have your best intentions at heart, but that doesn't mean she's right. Try to let her know you hear and respect everything she's telling you, but you feel like you should go a different way.
I hope that helps. You really are a beautiful, intelligent, amazing young woman. I have no doubt you will go far in life. Its just a matter of getting past the challenges that come along, and I know you can do it.
-T
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