Posted by Larry Hoover on May 18, 2006, at 22:18:54
In reply to Re: Well finally. » Larry Hoover, posted by TexasChic on May 18, 2006, at 16:40:30
> > Bitchygirl came out smiling, because the HR person won't end the interview until that's the case.
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> That makes alot of sense!Good. :-)
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> > If I may be so bold, you cried from your expectations not being met. You keep expecting things that won't happen.
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> Yes, that's exactly it.
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> > Expectations are premeditated disappointments.
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> But how do you keep your mind from going there?You can rephrase it, in your head/heart. Wouldn't it be nice if, is a lot different from, I really really hope....
Just recognizing you're doing it, is a big step. You have to recognize what needs adjusting before the adjustment will work.
That's a big thing in 12-step work. Just for today. One day at a time.
It's fine to fantasize. But it's better to wait and see what happens before you feel it.
> I don't know how to stop thinking about what the outcome will be in a situation. I do recognize this as a problem of mine. I've realized before that I sometimes live in a fantasy world. Its definitely something I need to work on.That's 80% of the job, or more, already done.
> > I'm glad you're so open about all of this. I hope my comment does not hurt you. I'd like you to try and look at things differently. I'm sorry, if I misread the situation.
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> No, I understand what you're saying. I always know your posts will make me look deep inside myself and think really really hard. And because I know this is part of your personality, I recognize you're trying to help and not hurt. I do appreciate it. :-)
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> -TThank you. Sometimes I can be too blunt. I dunno. I'm working on that. ;-)
Lar
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