Posted by TexasChic on April 29, 2006, at 22:36:11
In reply to Re: He wrote me back » TexasChic, posted by verne on April 29, 2006, at 21:25:27
> I've been following your story and don't think you are being paranoid about the bullying and petty antics by the others in the office. I believe you.
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> For some reason this guy doesn't see what's going on. Best not to pressure him. You told him the way it is and he may one day begin to see things as they really are.
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> Like you, I'm sensitive to this sort of thing but many aren't and don't even know what we're talking about. And when I get emotional about something they seem almost amused. I mean, I can tell they aren't even listening anymore. (Like the VanCom lady, "La,La,La,La" with a finger in each ear). MadTv if you haven't seen her.
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> I guess I'm trying to say that even if he's completely wrong at first, give him a chance - just let him be wrong, blind, or indifferent while at the same time, be gently assertive and stick to the truth.
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> I think when people are pressured to agree with something right away, they just dig in their heels even more. It may take him awhile to get it.
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> I believe you.
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> VerneAw-w-w, that's so sweet Verne! Thank you for believing in me. You don't know how good that made me feel.
As for being overly sensitive, I try to remind myself that its these same qualities that make me care about people so much. I guess you can't just turn it off and on, its always there. Maybe I'll learn how to channel it better someday.
After I read your post I realized how alot of what I said could be misinterpreted. I just couldn't leave it like that so I sent him an email to try to explain things. I know you're probably like, "No, no! Don't write anything else!" But I think it actually turned out pretty good. Its alot more calm and sane than any of my other emails to him. I'm not going to worry about it anymore.
Maybe someday I'll meet someone who finds my exuberant emotions endearing. Ha, ha!
-T
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