Posted by alexandra_k on March 27, 2005, at 14:55:02
In reply to Re: ???????? » Gabbi-x-2, posted by alexandra_k on March 27, 2005, at 14:43:00
Yeah. Lets just leave this. I had a look back through the thread and I don't really see where I said anything objectionable.
Saying you feel hurt or whatever is one thing.
Saying Dr Bob will 'learn' from this whole situation implies that he did something wrong or that he didn't forsee the consequences.
Sometimes in life we have to make decisions that do result in people feeling badly. And there isn't an alternative way around that.
If you purposely chose to have a party at an expensive resturant when there were cheaper alternatives available then I think your poorer friends would understandably be pissed off with you for having made such a poor decision.
No matter where the babble meet is held - the problem remains.
It is a choice between having it or not having it.
If the idea was never mentioned I suppose there would never be a problem.
WOuld you have preferred it to go that way?
The other option is to have it anyway and realise that some people will be upset they can't go. To consider that the benefit to those who can is worth it.
The very idea of an online chat site is exclusionary to those without internet connections. To those who come to lose it or their computer or whatever. What are you supposed to do? Never start up the site because some people will feel excluded?
If you are sad you can't go
If you feel hurt or whatever
Then that is how you feel.But considering what the alternatives are might just mean that you aren't so mad at particular people. That you don't think they have made a bad decision or need to learn a lesson or whatever.
It it up to you how you choose to see it.
You can still feel hurt.And now I am just talking round and round.
This is starting to sound just like the thread on VSG's to me...That may well be why it is best to leave it.
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