Posted by Fallen4MyT on November 25, 2004, at 1:11:28
In reply to Re: How aweful is this? or...is it? HELP PLS, posted by Susan47 on November 24, 2004, at 23:54:45
I totally agree with you well, one side of me..the rational one :-) It is just that I KNOW that the people I spend hoidays with the last so many years do NOT care about me they see me only because I am the ticket to get their son in the door..Why he doesn't go without me now and then is beyond me...there is no need for me to go I only go because if I do not HE won't and they are old ..if he don't go and they die I will feel like its my fault I ruined that last holiday..YET I also feel he has a choice to go or not.. .see that circle thinking of guilt?..I have asked to go to see my friend on holidays and we do not go cause he doesn't care how my holidays are. I have grown to hate the holidays and only do to avoid the guilt it is not like hubby and I have good holidays he has stolen and other bad things on holidays so why I bother to please his folks is beyond me. If I could do the holiday like I want guilt free it would be with my pets and best friend ..I lost a better reply to you but basically they do not love me nor have a reason to they do not know nor want to know me...Gosh I am a loon!! So I wonder how to not feel guilty
> IMO if you want to stop you have to not feel guilty anymore.
> And do what's right for you. And if you're truly loved, those people will be understanding. imo. ANd if they're not understanding, to heck with it, do what's right for you. It's your life your living, they live theirs, you live yours. Why can't you be a partner in choosing what's right for you, why do you have to be the serf?
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