Posted by Fallen4MyT on November 24, 2004, at 21:44:38
OK I have grown to HATE the holidays since I have been married. When we lived away from family it seems hubby sulked cause it was JUST ME to spend it with... but he had fun at Christmas parties. He said Christmas was just another damn day to spend money and did the tree and all but sucked the joy out of holidays...Years pass....Now we have lived near family for 4 years and we have spent MOST of them with his family . They do not dislike me but in 11 years no birthday cards zip just polite to nice when we see them....what family I do have is very nice to him and all. The last 2 holidays we called to let them know we were on our way and no kidding all left but his mom and dad (dysfunctional) ...THEY LEFT MID MEAL (over him not me)...I have nothing against mom and dad but they are strangers to me and don't care to know me....I have gone ill and all just out of respect and cause they could die and all..I am nice, fun and helpful....but tired of all my holidays sucking just so they can see HIM...most of my famiy is deceased. I told hubby tonight I just don't wanna fake it no more and he can go himself (said not mean but sincere)....Seems to me when we moved closer to mom and dad we agreed we would not spend all our holidays there but you know ...we do....and I want to start new traditions or just stay home..I said last year next year lets have all but those who ran and what family I have over to our place so we aren't always running..My T has told me do what I would like to do....but I feel guilty
:( WHY CAN'T I HAVE A FUN OR DECENT HOLIDAY ANYMORE without hurting anyone? If I do not go hubby will not go ...he should his folks are old and would love to see him...I wish we had not moved at least my bad holidays were guilt free.,,,,,help...should I go???? Hubby said it may be their last holiday but then you get...its moms first alone holiday or dads..it will never end....what a mess :*(
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