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Re: About parents » Dinah

Posted by Karen_kay on March 11, 2004, at 9:41:26

In reply to Re: About parents » Karen_kay, posted by Dinah on March 11, 2004, at 9:14:41

((((Dinah)))) I just realized I forgot to give you a hug. I'm sorry. It's tough with parents, especially when we aren't feeling well. My mother is just as stubborn as your father. Only she refuses any type of help from me at all. And she never calls me, so it's up to me to call her to keep in touch. And when I do call, I only hear things like, "You've been in school long enough to be a doctor." Maybe she doesn't realize that I've been sitting out? Or that I graduated, because she didn't come. And it will be sad when I graduate again and she's not there, but my boyfriend's parents and relatives are. But, I remember that in spite of the fact I have an unsupportive mother, I have the MOST supportive sisters in the world. So, I love my mother dearly for giving birth to not only me, but also 2 of the greatest, most beautiful women in the world. And how could I have any hard feelings towards her for that great feat? But, she has her own life and her own problems that she'll eventually have to face. And she always offers to help me financially, though I won't allow her. I'd rather have emotional support than financial. But, on the bright side, she has gotten a lot better in the past few years. Honestly, she has. So, maybe we're all changing? (Sorry, I have to gripe every once in a while..)

But....You have to do what can help keep your sanity. And if that means not answering the phone, or taking it off the hook, then do it. Or, if it means hiring someone to help your father and escorting them every morning on your way to work so your parents won't call you for every small issue, then do that. Or, if it means giving in to their demands, do that. But, you know what's best for you and Your household. And don't feel bad for a second for doing what you have to do to get by.
You're holding up so well right now and I'm so very proud of you Dinah. It's tough when there's a crisis in the family, as it not only affects the ones involed, it also affects everyone in the family. But, remember it isn't your responsibility to make your dad get help if he doesn't accept it from you. You're only human and cn only do so much hun. And thus far, you seem to be superwoman with everything you have on your plate and the way you are handling it. You're doing such a WONDERFUL job, and I can't honestly tell you how very thrilled I am that you are doing so well right now. You hang in there. And don't worry about taking care of anyone but you, Harry and your son right now. You're such a beautiful and caring woman Dinah! And I'm so proud of you.


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