Posted by Penny on February 7, 2004, at 15:07:28
In reply to Makes perfect sense to me » Penny, posted by Elle2021 on February 7, 2004, at 3:25:10
Yep - I've always had a thing for smart guys, and was always getting crushes on profs and TAs. There was this TA for my intro psych class when I was a sophomore...sigh...and my astronomy lab TA my freshman year... :-)
But they were all 'safe' guys - so I didn't have a problem being infatuated. And that's all it ever was - I knew it would never be reciprocal, and I never would have shared my feelings anyway!
I told my T pretty much what I posted in this thread on Thursday night. Of course, I waited until the end of the session to blurt it all out. I had told her some of it before, but I don't think I went into as much detail. When I finished, she closed her eyes...and I laughed, and then she opened them and said, "Well, THAT'S definitely on our agenda!" I said, "Well, that's what I want you to help me with - because I know that feeling like I am unworthy (for whatever reason) of being the object of someone's affection isn't a good thing."
I think she's going to have some interesting insight. I said that I felt like my former T touched on it a bit, but she tended to look more at the positive thinking exercises as the answer, but, while I think that has to be part of it, I don't think it's the thing that's going to fix my issues. My T agreed, she said, "Yes, it goes much deeper than that."
So, I think she gets it. Now, what will she tell me to do about it? I think therapy is about to get really interesting...
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