Posted by octopusprime on November 17, 2003, at 22:14:55
In reply to Re: loneliness is not a phase » octopusprime, posted by jay on November 17, 2003, at 3:46:32
hello jay.
congratulations on deciding to join group therapy and start talking. i simultaneously loathe and embrace the dark enclosed shell.i just wanted to explain the "how was your day" thing ... i believe the phrase was spoken in the context of true caring, not forced appearances, by somebody that legitimately cared about the answer (no matter what it was) ...
i agree with you about ego boundaries. i feel that we develop the ego boundaries out of self-defense, out of lack of trust, out of shattered perceptions. when we cannot trust our own minds, who can we trust? so we build walls and isolate ourselves.
while i sure would love to drop those boundaries, i still have a defensive fear of rejection. maybe i'll sign up for group therapy with you.
cheers.
> Well...check out my post below. I live in this dark, enclosed shell, and have been for about 7 years now. It crep't up on me slowly...taking away friends slowly...taking away self-esteem...taking away my job...taking away better overall health...etc.
> I say this below...and it has become a new insight for me....that this 'illness' is so damn lonely, and that is one of the worst aspects of it.
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> I think I know what you mean about the "hi..how are you today" thing...because that really is just superficial, and many of us have learn't to put on 'fake' appearences just so we can actually stand making it through some uncomfortable experience. But, how do we really drop those ego boundaries? One thing I would love is to be able to drop and raise those boundaries with the snap of my fingers. Right now, I am such a mess inside, they won't even budge.
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> I hope that makes sense...and yes it is a great thread.
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> Best and peace,
> Jay
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