Posted by Susan J on October 19, 2003, at 13:54:53
In reply to Re: when to talk about depression, posted by octopusprime on October 19, 2003, at 13:40:59
Hello!
>> I think I would tell again only where the relationship gets to the point where he sees you taking medication morning and/or night. Then he might be curious as to what the medication is for. I think that sort of thing is strictly on a need-to-know basis at first. It may be months before you're really emotionally intimate enough to explain what it means to you.
<<I agree it's pretty much a need-to-know thing. I haven't shared this struggle with more than my family and some close friends.But I don't know when it changes from being a private issue for me to being something that I have wrongly withheld from someone. At what point would the guy feel like he's been lied to?
Or, another thing. I feel really good right now, but it doesn't mean I don't have my super-low days, get cranky, don't want to talk, or even more often, just don't feel like doing a lot of stuff on any particular day. Any person that I start seeing on a regular basis is going to *notice* that stuff.
>> I know next time around I will be much more reticent about spilling the depression beans. I just have to be mysterious about myself until then, so my dates don't know I've been spending many of my weekends in my PJs!
<<Good advice! I guess I am really open to certain people about things. I sometimes (often!) tell too much!An old boss once told me, discretion is the better part of valor. :-) I shoulda taken the hint back then!
Susan
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