Posted by Susan J on October 18, 2003, at 10:19:00
In reply to Re: Scary Internet Dating » Susan J, posted by jay on October 17, 2003, at 21:02:14
Jay,
> I just first wanted to say thanx for the very nice supportive posts you gave to me when I was in very dark times. It means a lot...seriously.
<<Of course. I hope something I said was comforting. :-)> My last experience was with a gal who, about halfway through our 'date', divulged she was married. (Well...separated...but for two weeks!!!)
<<Yeah, I'm a little worried about that, but like I said before, I can look up marriage records to see if someone's still married. Fortunately, I've never really run into dating a married guy (as far as I know).
>>but I *always* end up dating woman who seem to be in some kind of marriage problem, and often aren't even "divorced".
<<Do you have any idea *why* that happens to you? Like my own pattern, I end up doing everything for the guy and get nothing in return. It doesn't start out that way, but always seems to end that way. I don't know how I get myself into it....time and time again.>>uh, 'horizontal gymnastics'...heheh. Even for a guy, that is also a very dangerous thing to do these days.
<<Yes, it is. Although it seems casual sex has made a huge comeback in the past several years. A bit scary to me. I learned a great deal from the misfortune of a friend of mine back in college, who was dating a *med* student! Even though she practiced very safe sex, condoms and more, she still ended up with genital warts. *My* lesson learned, you gotta like/care about/love the guy enough to risk contracting something, something permanent, or perhaps even something fatal. Really puts a damper on that casual stuff. :-)> So...that leads me to know....lonely and ya a bit sad because of it, but I always keep the spark alive by saying "SOMETHING will come up..", as that has been what got me through my deepest, darkest depressive and anxiety states.
<<I know the feeling. But I am actually *not* lonely right now. (Trust me, that's a new one for me, who's the biggest romantic of all and believes in soul mates and all that). I'm feeling better than I have in years, seem fairly happy, and figured this is the *best* time to try and find a guy.>> And...that is yet another story of a lonely guy hanging out in pixilated space! Maybe I should try Yoga classes?!?! So...what is your sign?...heheee..lol
<<Hahahh! I always thought it was easier for a guy to get a date than a woman, since men generally do the asking. Not?One *bad* thing I've heard for men on the net, though. Did I write this already? If so, I apologize. I have a male friend who wasn't getting many responses when he listed his salary as around $50,000 on one of these sites (avg. salary in this area is about $45,000 for a man). But when he increased it to $150,000 to see what would happen (and changed nothing else), he got *tons* of inquiries. I felt really sorry for him, and really concerned that so many women seem to care so strongly about money.
Good luck with everything. :-)
Susan
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