Posted by yesac on July 1, 2003, at 15:07:33
In reply to Re: roomate/friend » yesac, posted by Penny on June 30, 2003, at 22:45:10
> What course of graduate study are you preparing for, if I might ask? (you don't have to share if you don't want to...)
Social work. I want to be a therapist.... funny, huh? But, I may also want to work as a prison social worker or as a hospital social worker. Lots of time for it all, I figure...
> I tend to attract a certain kind of person, which truly says something about me, I think.I think most people do. Just like people find themselves repeatedly in the same kinds of situations wherever they go. I know I have!
> So I'm listening to the therapist here with the "let it go, it's her stuff, not yours" but still struggling. So I told her that she's not the only one who has been hurt in this relationship, and she says, "When have I hurt you?" and I can't name specifics b/c I don't think about things in that way, but I told her that everytime she comes home in a pissy mood and doesn't tell me what's wrong but doesn't talk to me, it makes me wonder what I've done wrong and it hurts me. Because sometimes it's about me, and sometimes it's not. So I told her that she needs to just tell me then and there when I do something to piss her off, not hold it in and wait and then lay it all on me at one time!!!!!
I don't want to admit it, but I think that I'm the one like her in the relationship with my best friend - I'm the one who acts pissy but doesn't say anything. She gets offended. But I've gotten better about that I think.
> Are you in the program at neurosciences? My therapist has mentioned the possibility of DBT to me if things got that bad. I think she was referring to SI or something like that, which I haven't had a problem with as of late. What do you hate about it? How long does it last?No, I'm not in the one at Neurosciences. I need to try to avoid UNC health care, especially psychiatric, as much as possible, because I work in research in the psych dept and there is just that possibility of something getting out or whatever. I just don't want to risk it. I'm not sure if by SI you mean suicidal ideation or self-injury... but that was my sort of initial impression that that was what DBT was a lot for. That and impulsiveness, which I am very much not. The only think I have is the suicidal ideation. But DBT is really about a lot of other stuff. You don't have to be borderline personality or anything. I think actually that most people could benefit from it. But I hate it because it's boring, I don't like "sharing", there's homework, and it just seems kind of simplistic and lame at times. This module lasts about 10 or 11 weeks, but there are 4 modules in all and you can do however many you want to. They each have a certain theme. This is my second module.
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