Posted by noa on June 30, 2003, at 19:56:27
In reply to Surviving..., posted by Penny on June 29, 2003, at 11:04:32
>As usual, I am a terrible person, a terrible friend, a terrible employee, a terrible daughter and granddaughter, and the only thing I think I might be even close to good at is being a dog owner, and even that is iffy.
Penny, is this what you think the roommate's attitude is or is this what you think and feel? I can't tell from the post.
If it is you saying it about yourself, forgive my stepping over a boundary, as I hardly know you, but somebody's gotta do it---consider yourself metaphorically grabbed by the shoulders and shaken a bit and --really forgive me--told to "stop it". OK, I hope you get my intent here. I have a friend who yells at me to stop it (she doesn't actually grab me and shake me, though) when I get hyper-self-critical, and I guess I am just trying to pass along that spirit.
I hope you see this as supportive--as I said, it is clearly way over the boundaries, and who the heck knows how it comes across in a post!!
But I know that for me, adding insult to injury and loading on the self-criticism makes it all worse.
You sound depressed. Or, to use a cliche--"it sounds like the depression talking". Do you think you are getting what you need to out of your meds, or do you need to tweak them some?
Not that I am of the 100% meds/biology camp--I'm not--I see that what is going on in your life is also a big part. But my own experience was that my meds had to be adequately addressing the depression before I could really deal effectively with the life crap.
If the depression were treated more adequately, I think we'd be 'hearing' a more angry, empowered voice from you--rightfully angry about the crappy attitudes you've encountered from friends and family. But a more empowered, angry voice.
Know what I mean?
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